The long and short of it is this: I came into this business as close to rock bottom as you can get.
I was in debt up to my eyeballs.
I was working 60+ hours a week barely keeping a struggling business afloat.
I was completely stressed — and I was utterly broken.
Back then, my wheels spun faster than my mind raced because all I wanted to do was make a real difference, but I didn’t know how. I’d seen transformation in my own life – breaking the cycles of addiction and alcoholism, recovering from disordered eating, working through challenging family dynamics, etc. — and I wanted other women to experience the same.
Simply put: I was hellbent on creating an impact, but I struggled to bring that vision to life.
So the go-getter in me did the only thing she knew to do: She worked harder.
If I wanted to make a difference, I just needed to work more, to work harder, to work longer. Eventually my break would come, right?
So I worked more.
I worked harder.
I worked longer.
I hardly saw my kids or my husband.
And after all that? I still found myself in the same place.
What I was doing wasn’t working — so in a last ditch effort to save myself, I took a chance and joined a community that was filled with women who seemed to be living the life I loved.
Not only were these women living their healthiest lives — free from the throes of chronic dieting and abusing their bodies — but they were showing up as their best selves in all areas of their lives.
Now let me take a step back for a minute. Before you think this was an easy decision for me or even one I made flippantly — you need to know this: I was straight up scared to take this step.
I was scared of failure.
I was scared of what people would say about me when they found out I’d joined this fitness community.
I was scared of what this decision might require of me.
But even still, there was a whisper.
What if I just dipped my toes in?
What if I gave it a try?
What if I took the leap and bet on myself… just this once?
And as loud as the fear was — the whisper just wouldn’t go away. So I listened to it. After many months of resisting and making excuses — I finally jumped. And when I jumped — I leapt into a community of women who were living life on fire.
The truth is — I never had any intentions of making this a business. I didn’t come into this community with plans to build an empire or make a name for myself by serving others.
But — low and behold — my own personal transformation lit a fire under me. The freedom I found in my 30-minute workouts, sustainable nutrition plan, and this unbelievable crew of women was something I couldn’t keep to myself. Not only was I transformed physically — but my mindset started to shift too. I stopped caring about what other people thought, I stopped fearing failure, and I leaned HARD into working my butt off for the sake of others. I became obsessed with paying it forward and serving other women by sharing this opportunity, this solution with them.
So I became a coach too. And like I do everything in my life, I was ALL IN.
I built this business fast and furiously and I built (and borrowed!) belief as I kept making strides forward. In the past six years of doing this — here are the top 5 things I’ve learned:
1. The people who are the most broken are often the most successful in this business. Maybe it’s because we feel like we have nothing left to lose or maybe it’s because we know that there’s only one way up after hitting rock bottom. Whatever the reason, I’ve seen countless women who are hanging on by a thread make the biggest comebacks. There’s something about this business, its programs and its philosophies that lights women up — and getting to witness it is my greatest gift.
2. You become who you surround yourself with. We tell our kids this all the time — but I’m not sure I’ve seen it play out more than I have on my team. Team Together Rising is the kind of community women dream of. Why? Because we tenaciously and relentlessly support one another. It’s the very definition of community over competition — and we check the comparison, gossip and egos at the door. We build one another up and we’re not threatened by each other’s successes — we’re fueled by them. Truly — I could not have experienced even a fraction of the success I have without my team.
3. Their success doesn’t threaten my own. This one deserves its own explanation. It’s that important. The most successful people don’t have scarcity mentalities. They don’t hoard knowledge, secrets or systems out of fear of being surpassed. They give it away like it’s their job because they know there’s room for everyone at the table. Because of this, I’ve made it my mission to celebrate the success of women around me like it’s my own — and I want to teach my daughter to call out the good and do the same.
4. Your mindset is either your secret weapon or your worst enemy. I don’t have any super powers and I’m not more talented than anyone I know. My secret weapon? I refuse to quit. I’ve spent thousands of hours working on my mindset through therapy, prayer, meditation, attending live events and intensive weekend retreats, going through courses, and even working with gurus around the world. Why? because I know that my mind constantly needs to be renewed and recalibrated. I believe with all that’s in me that with the right mindset — you can completely change the trajectory of your life, for better or worse.
5. Chasing YOUR dreams isn’t selfish — it’s literally the SINGLE BIGGEST GIFT you can give to your kids. For so long I believed the lie that by pouring my heart and soul into my business, I was robbing my kids of their mom. I thought if I wasn’t devoting every single second of every single day to my kids, I was doing it wrong. Over the past six years, I’ve learned that I’ve never been more wrong about anything.
By chasing my dreams and going hard after my goals — I’m teaching my kids that excuses aren’t worth their time. I’m showing them that no matter what life throws at them, their dreams are worth the effort. By going all in on my business and my dreams — my kids have learned the value of hard work and sacrifice.
They’ve seen their mom put in early mornings and late nights. They’ve seen her put her head down and level up. They’ve seen me show up consistently and serve others. Mom or not — I only get one shot at this whole life thing — and for the sake of my kids and my legacy, I’m going big.
This journey has been filled with a lot of early mornings and late nights. It’s been chock full of tough conversations, self-sacrifice, rewiring my brain and disciplining myself to stay laser focused on my goals.
I’ve given up a lot — but I’ve gotten so much more in return.
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